It is hard sometimes for people to understand, but some persons do not cherish sex and are absolutely fine with that. They don’t see a problem at all. Science is not very helpful in understanding the phenomenon of asexuality. Researchers in the field of human sexual behavior has always been primarily focused on issues arising from sexual activities in both, men and women. The absence of sexuality may possibly be considered a problem that needs to be eliminated/treated. A few studies on asexuality have just begun. One of the first found that the approximate percentage of asexuals in relation to the world population is 1%.
What Asexuality is Really Not?
Asexuality is NOT a sexual dysfunction. It is not a physical disorder. Although research shows that asexual people have lower libido (controversial is the question of what “normal” libido is, though), it is not a matter of any hormonal imbalance or pathology. Neither their organs are damaged in any way. Those people are just not responding to stimulation in the form of erection or wetting. In general, asexuality is not the same as disorders of sexual dysfunction.
Asexuality is NOT a mental disorder. It is not a consequence of some psychological trauma from childhood. Of course, some people do not engage in sexual life because of different fears from the past (sexual abuse in childhood, rape, disgust or shame from their own body, traumatic experience, etc.) but for these people, it would be incorrect to say that they are asexual.
Asexuality DOES NOT MEAN that a person doesn’t want a romantic partner, family, and children. The desire for proximity and romantic love is not a side of the asexuals. Only, they have no desire to have sex with their loved one in that relationship. However, since many asexuals are related to sexual persons, they often agree on the sexual side of the relationship to satisfy their partners. Many asexuals will engage in sexual intercourse from a desire for children, or because of pressure from the environment and social norms.
Asexuals ARE NOT AFRAID OF touch and sex. Similarly, the assumption that asexuals are afraid of the very act of sex falls into the water, firstly, as we have already mentioned, because of the partners often agree to sex, the other, because most asexuals talk about sex completely untouched, free, without shame and anxiety, and with almost scientific interest. In their youth, they often dedicate themselves to researching everything about sex, because they just do not understand why he means so much to other people and why they do not mean anything to them. After all, asexuals have the same emotional needs as all people.
How to Better Understand Asexual Person?
Pay attention to the difference between asexuality and celibacy. Asexuality is not the same as celibacy. Celebrate persons may feel sexual attraction, but abstain from sexual activity, while with asexuality, persons do not feel attracted to any sort of gender. Not all asexual persons are in celibacy.
Do not associate asexual with gay people. Asexuals do not feel sexual attraction towards their own gender, which excludes homosexuality as an orientation. They can feel romantic attachment and can be recognized in many love orientations.
Understand that asexuals are not those who have suppressed their sexuality. Those in celibacy refrain from sexual activity (temporarily, until marriage, or permanently, as with some clergy), while those people usually do not have sexual tendencies towards their partners, even when they are in good marriage.
Do not expect change. Asexuals will not change if they “know the right person.” They are usually born asexual and will probably be asexual throughout their lives, as is the case with any other sexuality. Implications that they can be converted and “repaired” is very offensive.
Make sure you understand their motives. Asexuals are not against non-sexual relationships. They just have no desire for sex. Many have partners. Some go into sexual intercourse for many reasons (emotional intimacy, reproduction, etc.), although their partners do not attract them sexually.