We all experienced a sense of anger, as well as a feeling of regret if our reaction was excessive.
Anger is an entirely normal, generally healthy human emotion. But when it goes out of control and becomes destructive, it can cause problems – problems at work, in personal relationships or in the overall quality of life. It can create a feeling that we are in the power of unpredictable and powerful emotions.
The Nature Of Rage
It is an emotional state that can vary from mild nervousness to intense violence. Like other emotions, this is associated with physiological and biological changes in the body. When a person gets angry, his heart starts to accelerate, breathing is accelerated, blood pressure rises as well as adrenaline hormone levels. Anger can be triggered by internal and external factors. You can be angry at some particular person or event (congested traffic, delayed flight, political situation), or it can be prompted by concerns about personal issues. Removing some traumatic or frustrating experiences can provoke it. It is a mixture of both physical and psychological changes. When high energy passes through your body due to the release of chemicals like adrenaline, and when the cause of anger is eliminated it comes the moment when you have to deal with psychological effects – all this energy has to go somewhere.
Expression Of Anger
An intuitive way of expressing rage is an aggressive response. It is a natural adaptive way to the predicament of situations that aggravate aggressive feeling and behavior so we can hurt the person who caused our rage, which can bring us so much to violate law, social or customary social norms.
People use conscious or unconscious processes to combat anger and possible unacceptable behavior. The three main ways are expressing outrage, suppressing feelings, or calming down. Expressing outrage in a secure and non-aggressive way is the best and the most acceptable way to fight against anger itself. To have confidence is not to be demanding and arrogant, but to respect oneself and to be respected by the other.
Anger can be suppressed and then hides the danger of being directed at another. It happens when you ignore it, you try not to think of it and try to concentrate on something positive. This kind of anger can be a cause of high blood pressure or depression.
Unexpressed anger hides other problems, it can lead to pathological expressions of disorder such as passive-aggressive behavior or personality change in a permanently cynical and hostile person.
In the end, in the fight to anger, you can calm yourself down inside. This does not just mean controlling your behavior towards others, but also managing your emotional response to the outrage, squeezing the pulse, and allowing the sense of calm to overcome.
How To Calm The Rage
The goal in combating anger is to reduce the intensity of emotions and physical changes that cause it. You can learn to control your feelings by either avoid to deal with them or to limit people who create anger with you. The first good step is to be aware that you have a problem with excessive anger because if you recognize yourself that in some situations you behave outside of control or even scary, you will be aware that you need to find a better way to fight against it. Indeed, some people are more inclined to anger, they are much more hesitant and more intensely bursting than other average people, or people who do not express anger in a loud way but are always nervous and intense. These people have a low level of tolerance towards frustration.
There are many reasons why people become like this. One of them is a genetic tendency, some children are born hypersensitive, easy to anger, and such remain for a lifetime. The second cause is of socio-cultural origin if we are perceived as an exclusively negative trait, it is okay to express only depression or anxiety, but not anger; as a result, it is impossible to learn how to fight against anger and constructively construct it. Also, family education plays a critical role. Typically, people who rapidly get emotion come from disturbed families in which chaos reigns and there is no proper communication between its members.
Control You Anger in Few Simple Steps
In the situations in which you have to control the rampage of fury, these are the most straightforward steps. Breathe deeply. Slowly repeat the words that will calm you, e.g., Calm down, relax, just slowly. Just imagine a situation in which you are always calm, either from experience or imagination. Yoga exercises also can relax muscles and give you a sense of peace. This is the whole exercise to become an automatic reaction in intense situations. It is important to remember that it is possible to eliminate anger. In spite of all the efforts in life, there will be situations that will cause irritation and sometimes just rage. If you do not learn to control it correctly, your life will be filled with feelings of pain, loss, and frustration.