100% happy people?
Can we define at least one person on the planet as totally happy or sad? Can we say that there is a group of happy people and those less fortunate? To be optimistic or entirely pessimistic. What makes a human being different from the rest is the very existence of a wide range of emotions that shift. We believe there was not a single day in the life of a healthy person when he or she wasn’t smiling, was happy in one moment and then a little bit worried, even sad. True, we can not designate anyone as a happy person, but we can define what one can do to be one.
In that direction, many studies of happiness and emotional well-being have proved an important fact. Happiness is under the control of each of us. There is no magic pill (and if some can simulate the occurrence for a brief time) that will make us happy, it’s not possible to feel misery for a lifetime. If you think you know some people that are always smiling and have no problems in life, it’s not all that black and white. It just means their cognitive, emotional, and physical skills can make significant improvements and teach them to enjoy life. For such a thing, it is first necessary to make the boundary and be aware of the things you want and those you do not want in your life.
Things that happy people don’t need
Telling yourself there is no such thing as a “perfect life.” When we learn to get rid of things we simply can not control, we release more energy to better shape things in life.
No negative thoughts. Happy people do not think about what could go wrong. Giving space to negative thoughts pushes out space for positive thinking. Pessimism creates in our brain an established path to negative and wrong beliefs. Get rid of them.
Happy people do not overreact. When things go downhill, take your breath, consider your options, and then go ahead. Stress and anxiety do not allow your brain to assess situations and generate smart solutions.
Do not waste your time on anger or envy. If you find that the lives of others are ‘too much’ for you, simply turn them off. Never get involved in matters that don’t concern you, and never let other people do it with your life. It is a wasting of energy.
Don’t jump to conclusions – not in relationships, at work, or in your life. Prejudice and exaggerated thoughts lead our attention to our less useful and less healthy assessments and beliefs. Look deeper, reflect more, and look for more efficient solutions. This can lead you to happiness.
Do not consider your life a catastrophe. What else could you accomplish, and you did not? Why are others happier than you? Everyone could do much better or much worse. This can be a dangerous stereotype that kills the ambition, for sure. But in the case of people who mourn their fortune and seek something or someone to accuse of a disaster in their life, it is a great deal of advice.
Don’t bother with small things. Focus on the bigger picture. Never exaggerate small problems because some common and quite simple things could pass alongside. Does things could make you happy. Do not miss them.
Things that happy people will choose for themselves
Gratitude. What’s happening around you and right now, that’s the only real thing. Concentrate your positive thoughts on it and be grateful. Grace is the state of mind that brings happiness and serenity to the lives of people.
Reset your thoughts every day. Maybe you have your own method of doing so, the standard advice is – meditation. It cleans our brain of negative thoughts and “erases” the harm that negative thinking can do.
Awareness. As for the first rule, stay grounded in the present. Happy people are not trapped in the past, nor can plan a course for their future.
Get positive thinking. When the brain is stuck in black patterns, you must challenge these thoughts and test them against reality. Maybe you can’t control bad weather or rude people, but you can your mind. Get rid of the negatives that stand in your way of goodness.
Strong community. Happy people are part of a powerful social network. The support of the environment can be underestimated because we are all trying to be strong individuals. Each study of happiness indicates the presence of a support network as a critical predictor of happiness.
Love your tribe. A happy man rarely can be a lone wolf. He is a person from the previous paragraph, who builds secure social networks. Also, he makes a home and respects his tribe. Share love and happiness, just like sorrow with others.
Give as much as you give. Well-being is the balance between these two acts. Remember that a shared burden is halved – ask for support when needed and be willing to offer assistance in return.
So, we can not say that happiness is a chemical reaction or a genetic predisposition. However, some people are born under a bright star. But there are also those who have decided to be so. Happiness is a choice, but sometimes it is the result of multiple small decisions that work together to raise and maintain us on the surface when it arises from