In today’s modern world, parents have to face more challenges than ever before in raising their children. Financial problems, the strain of work, endless responsibilities, no relaxing time, as well as some other factors can be enormous obstacles in caring for and raising a kid. Furthermore, a lot of parents are still trying to grow up themselves while they are also raising their children.
Parenting has undoubtedly developed with the times, but some of the values that parents instill in their children remain the same. You should think of how different societies would be if all kids learned humility, grace, politeness, compassion, generosity, respect and acceptance of all.
With saying this, regardless of how much time you spend with your kids, taking some time to instill these vitally significant values in them will let them flourish into healthy content and respectable adults.
Here we are going to present you the 11 life-changing phrases which you should say to your children:
1. “You should always give what you can.”
Unluckily, in the modern world, we have been brainwashed into believing that owning the best things will make us happy. We have also been taught to treat ourselves or our kids to the latest phones and other gadgets only because corporations tell us that we desire them. Nevertheless, if every one of us grew up learning the opposite – to give as much as we can to other people without asking for anything in return, then we would almost certainly have a kinder, as well as healthier world.
You should teach your kids that giving is much more important and valuable than getting because seeing a smile on the face of some loved person after you help them out, will bring you more significant rewards than any new item ever will.
2. “Appreciate the little things that life gave you.”
It is the little things which will fill your kids with love and joy, and not the big ones. The butterfly flying past them on a walk through the park, the tips you go on together, the view of the sun coming up above the horizon – these are the things which they will remember. After all, they are not that ‘little,’ but we take them for granted.
You should teach your children what truly mattes from a young age, and they are going to remember that for the rest of their lives. They will not be conditioned to run after the wrong things for acceptance or happiness, and they will always take some time out of the day merely to appreciate being alive.
3. “Do not ever settle.”
A lot of people settle in life, either believing they do not deserve better or merely getting tired of searching. But, when your soul does not truly feel happy, then you can always do better for yourself. Setting in a negative situation can lead to long-term emotions of apathy, complacency, and depression. No one deserves to feel that way.
You should teach your kid to go after what they want in life, and never give up. Also, teach them to chase whatever makes them happy, even when it does not make sense to others. As long as they find fulfillment and they love the life that they live, they will not end up setting for less.
4. “Be grateful every single day.”
No matter what you are facing in your life, if you have got a roof over your head, some food on the table, as well as water to drink, clothes on your back, and loving people around you, you are doing better than you thought. We always have to remind our kids of this simple fact about life, as the modern culture teaches us that we lack if we do not have the latest “essentials.”
You should teach our children to be grateful for the blessing bestowed upon them, and do not desire anything outside of their true needs. “Desire is the root of all suffering,” Buddha said.
5. “Kindness is the greatest gift that you can give.”
Kindness does not have a price, yet it has great value when it is given selflessly. If we taught our kids to love, as well as give and don’t expect anything in return, they would grow up to change out the world by just living in congruence with their values.
Because of that, you should teach your kids to offer kindness to all the people that they meet, even if that means just returning a smile, helping somebody put groceries in their car, or holding the door open for them. You should teach your children to be present in the real problems which are happening in the world because people need help every day, and we all can offer it if we keep our hearts open.
6. “Treat everybody with respect, even if you do not agree with them.”
If we look back in the history, we can see so many disagreements, as well as battles and wars that have happened as a result of differences in opinion and lack of ability or willingness to find common ground. But, imagine how much suffering we would prevent from happening if we all treated each other with kindness and respect, no matter if we agree on every little thing or not.
You should teach your kids to treat every person that they meet with dignity and compassion, even when they do not have anything in common with them. Remind them that they can give love to other people without first wondering whether they are worthy of it.
7. “Always follow your heart.”
Today’s world can pull us in a lot of different direction which we cannot even think straight. But, the most authentic compass lies within ourselves. If we are not following our hearts, then we are fighting a battle with our souls, and the one way to win is just to give in.
You should teach your children to give in to their deepest desires. You should teach them that, no matter what the world might try to tell them, only they can know the real answers for their heart. Teach them to look within rather than searching outside themselves for the right path. Their heart will also guide their way in the end.
8. “Do not let others steal your job.”
There are a lot of “mini-lessons” within this phrase, as you might interpret it differently. First, you should teach your children that caring what other people think is a mental prison they will be stuck in for the rest of their life unless they learn to free themselves. How can they escape? By staying faithful to themselves no matter how others might perceive them. You should teach your kids that their own opinion of themselves matters more than those that do not know their story.
Secondly, you should teach your children that they are only responsible for their feelings, as well as emotions so that they should not allow other people to drag them into their misery. We cannot command others, but we can take charge of how we react to every situation.
9. “What you think, you become.”
This is another thought-provoking lesson from Buddha that still applies today. No matter what you believe, it is what you become, so you should teach your kids to be careful of their thoughts and try to look at things optimistically. Negativity drains our energy, while positivity adds to it. You should teach your children to look on the bright side of life, and it will not seem nearly as challenging anymore.
10. “You should not be afraid to make mistakes.”
This is probably one of the most critical things that you can say to your kids before they grow up and allow fear to paralyze them. While all of us have to be aware of our surroundings and act reasonably, we cannot spend our whole life in absolute fear of everything. We have to step outside of our bubble and let life happen to us if we want to learn and grow. Sure, we may stumble, as well as fail and make mistakes, but that is inevitable in life.
11. “You should treat your environment like your home.”
In these times, this is one pretty significant lesson than ever before. Look around at all the destruction on Earth. It is largely because of the humans’ wasteful practices and mismanagement of resources. You may not realize it, but what we teach our kids now will directly affect the future of our planet. Therefore, in a sense, you have a responsibility in ensuring that your children will have a planet to live on.