In today’s article, we are going to present you the 12 ways children might appear like they are behaving in a naughty way but they are not. When we recognize children’ unwelcome behaviors as reactions to external conditions, growing up phases, or our behavior, we can respond proactively, and with much more empathy and compassion.
1. Doing something that is forbidden.
If you ever said to your children, “Don’t throw that!” and they throw it anyway, then you will be interested in the following. According to suggestions of one research, the brain’s regions which are involved in self-control do not fully mature until the end of adolescence. This also describes why developing self-control is a long process. A lot of parents believe that their kids can resist doing something that is forbidden when they were under the age of three. Most kids do not master this skill until they are three-and-a-half of four years old.
2. Being hyperactive.
If your children are suddenly behaving in a hyperactive way or show some symptoms of a meltdown which is probably related to the rhythms of modern life, which also makes more and more children behave this way. According to research, about 28% of Americans “always feel rushed” and about 45% report having “no excess time.” Overwhelming our children with a lot of activities and toys when they need some quiet and rest time too, can also be the reason for stress reactions.
3. Being unable to manage emotions.
Sometimes a kid may be completely unable to manage its emotions, as well as reactions, just because it feels hungry or thirsty, tired, sleepy or sick. You should not underestimate these signs. Even adult people sometimes find it hard to control such needs about their emotions. Can you imagine how difficult it is for kids that cannot always communicate the needs that they have or, not to mention, help themselves?
4. Expressing big feelings.
As adults, we know how to tame and hide some of our deep emotions, like great anger or hatred or fear as well. It is not always right, but we have learned not to do it so that we present a good a social behavior. Children cannot do that still. They cry, they shout, they say big words and they do not even know the reason for that. If you are a parent, the best what you can do is to let your kids express themselves. They are also too young to hold it, but they are going to, at some point.
5. Moving around all of the time.
It is similar to being hyperactive, and it also includes behaviors like constantly running, playing games like chasing around the house, or, even worse, jumping on the couch. What most adults do not understand is that kids have a great need for tons of movement. Nowadays, most kids spend time indoors so that the problem will become bigger. You should teach your kid – and, why not, yourself – that spending time outdoors is important. Being energetic is not bad at all. Kids just need to learn the correct way to express it.
6. Trying to become independent.
Although this is more visible in the adolescent years, there are also a lot of kids that like protesting and breaking the rules. If the behavior of your kid does not cross any limits and is not dangerous in any way, then you should not be too scared. Being unconventional is something very good, and it is also a sign of intelligence.
7. Having core strengths which also trip them up.
There are kids that might be driven in school, but find it hard to cope when they mess up. They may also be cautious and safe, but that could make them hesitate to try some new activities. They may live in the moment, but they may also not be organized at all. Sometimes, some good parts of our personality cover some bad parts, which are just the flip side of the same coin.
8. Always finding a reason to play.
This may sound adorable, but it can also be annoying if you have a kid who wants to play hide and seek when it is time for bathing or steals your clothes just to dress up and look funny. But, that is not bad behavior. It is perfectly normal. Children love to be silly. Playing is all their life. You just have to teach them, gradually but steadily, not all hours are for playing.
9. Reacting to the moods of parents.
A lot of research studies on emotional contagion have discovered that emotions such as enthusiasm, joy, as well as sadness or fear, and anger, can go from one person to another quickly, usually without either person realizing it. Children especially tend to pick up on the moods of their parents very easily. If we are nervous, as well as anxious, sad, or angry, our children are going to follow these moods. The same also applies when we are peaceful and grounded.
10. Being too demanding.
For example, you bought them ice cream on Saturday, and now they want to eat another one on Sunday. You refuse so that they will scream and cry. Does this sound familiar? Well, that is normal, as children want to know what to expect, just like adults. They fear that they are never going to have their ice cream again. Of course, that is a situation that you should use to set boundaries and limits to your kid.
11. Mood fluctuation.
It might make you feel stressed as a parent, but a lot of kids change their moods easily. You should remember that they are just kids: they can be excited about eating ice cream, but devastated if they accidentally drop the ice cream on the floor. You should not be harsh on them, but just be patient.
12. Representing an angry behavior.
If your kid is often angry, especially if that is towards you, then, before you assume it is a naughty kid, you should better investigate whether something troubles them. You should try talking to your kid, as well as ask them what they want, what would make them happy. You should not always fear the worst, but always be ready to face any difficult situation.