They stick to their looks, follow the trends, they like to use the words “I” and “mine” in the center of attention, they emphasize their achievements, acquaintances or wealth. Although psychologists consider that we are all a bit narcissistic, it is essential to make the difference between narcissism as a developmental process and narcissism as a personality disorder.
Often undiagnosed and uneasy, a narcissistic personality disorder is a pathology that should be taken seriously. Most of us understand what it means narcissistic behavior.
These people are mostly young people or teenagers with no responsibility outside the school and a part-time job with which they pay for their clothes and make-up. Over time, their responsibilities change, and they begin to experience life and work. In this way, their egoistic, narcissistic behavior is rapidly expanding. Their cognitive abilities mature and realize what is most important in life – friends, and family. Their preoccupation with their appearance is decreasing, and building and creating healthy interpersonal relationships becomes their focus and goal.
Unfortunately, not all of their child’s narcissistic tendencies grow. The lack or absence of neurological maturity often results in individuals who develop a narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). Individuals with NPD, which is ironic, do not really like themselves. On the contrary, they lack love for themselves and a person’s value, which makes them very dangerous for themselves and others.
Many NPD individuals suffer from depression, they think of suicide, recurring problems in relationships, at work or at school. Most people with NPD in our society will never be officially diagnosed. That is why learning how to recognize the characteristics and characteristics of people with NPD can help us protect our family and ourselves.
Some psychologist defines narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) as a “ubiquitous form of grandiosity (in imagination or behavior), the need for admiration or admission, and the lack of empathy, which usually begins in the early adult age and who is present in different contexts, “such as family life and work.
Nine Ways To Spot a Narcissist
Dr. Sam Vaknin in his book “Malicious self-love” provides the following list of 9 narcissistic features, of which at least five should be diagnosed with NPD.
- They feel great and self-evident- they exaggerate the achievements, talents, skills, acquaintances, and qualities to the point of lying, demands recognition as superiors without proportional achievement).
- They are obsessed with the fantasies of unlimited success, glory, frightening power or omnipotence, unattainable shine (cerebral narcissus), physical beauty and sexual performance (somatic narcissus), or ideal, eternal, conquering love and passion.
- They are firmly convinced that they are unique and special, and can understand, should treat, or relate only with other special or unique, people (or institutions) of high status.
- Requires excessive admiration, frustration, attention, and affirmation, or, in the absence of it, wants to be afraid of it or that it is notorious.
- They feel right. It requires automatic and complete compliance with its unreasonable expectations for special treatment.
- They deal with exploitation and uses others to achieve its own goals;
- They are deprived of empathy. They are not able or unwilling to identify with, acknowledge, or accept the feelings, needs, preferences, priorities, and choices of others;
- Steadfastly seduces others and seeks to hurt or destroy objects of their frustration. They are suffering from persecution (paranoia) because they believe that others feel the same towards them and that they will act similarly;
- They behave bitterly and arrogantly. They feel superior, omnipotent, omniscient, called to share advice, invincible, immune, “above the law.” Narcissists are furious when they are frustrated, controverted, or confronts people who find them inferior or inadequate.